Do we really need a first dance at our wedding? | Stephen Coleclough
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Do we really need to have a first dance at our wedding?

Traditions seem to be part and parcel of weddings.

For some couples they are more than happy to embrace these traditions and go along with them, however, there are also couples who want to try and do things a little differently.

One tradition that seems to be a love it or hate it moment is the first dance.

Some couples are more than happy to take their moment in the spotlight, whereas, there are some that feel just a little embarrassed about the whole thing.

So, should this mean that you do away with the idea of a first dance completely?

Well, we have to be honest, we think that the first dance is one tradition that is worth keeping as a part of your wedding day, and here are some of the reasons why.

A first dance is your chance to take a moment together

Weddings can rush past in a blur, one moment you are saying I do, then the evening is over.

It can be full of talking to people and rushing around making sure that everything is in place.

Which means that many couples feel that they haven’t actually had a chance to take some time out together.

A first dance is your chance to come together and enjoy your newlywed status, all with a truly romantic backdrop.

A first dance signifies that the party is starting

The term first dance isn’t always hugely accurate, as for some couples it actually takes place a few songs into the evening.

However, despite the music playing, you will find that lots of your guests won’t get up and dance.

In order to encourage them to get their groove on, you should have your first dance.

Once this is over with, your guests are going to know that the time has come for the party to get started.

People look forward to a first dance

Wedding days are a lot about the couple, however, that isn’t to say that you shouldn’t try your best to keep your guests happy too.

The first dance is something that many guests look forward to, that they are excited to see, so, if there is no other reason to include this tradition, then this is good enough.

You don’t have to do it alone

If you really don’t like the idea of having a first dance at your wedding, then why not replace it with an “everyone in” dance instead?

Take to the floor, play your special song, but ask your guests to join you.

Not only does this keep the tradition alive, but it also means that you won’t feel embarrassed or that all eyes are on you.

As you can see, there are a number of reasons why a first dance should be something that you include in your wedding day.

Whether it is to give you both a chance to come together and breathe, or simply to make sure that your guests can see you up there together, a first dance is a tradition that definitely needs to stay around!

Stephen Coleclough
Stephen Coleclough

Stephen Coleclough is one of the UK's premier wedding DJs and the winner of multiple industry awards and accolades. His favourite wedding song? Love Shack of course - a guaranteed floor filler! You can find him on Twitter at

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