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Banish The Stress Of The Top Table Set Up

When it comes to planning your wedding there are always going to be some big decisions to make.

One of the most stressful has to be the seating arrangements, in particular for the top table.

There are likely to be plenty of important people that you will want to have on the top table, but if you include everyone then you could end up with a very busy table indeed.

You may have divorced parents, parents who don’t get along, or perhaps siblings who think that they deserve a place on the top table.

All of which can come together to one massive headache for you.

Want to have the perfect top table set up but don’t want the stress?

If this true for you then we have put together some of the easiest ways to banish the stress from your top table set up.

The family

One of the most traditional set ups for a wedding top table is to have the groom’s mother beside the bride’s father and then the opposite on the other side.

This isn’t always the most ideal set up, particularly if your parents don’t know each other particularly well, or if they don’t get along.

If this happens then you can sit your parents together.

However, there are is always a problem if any of the parents are divorced, as they may not want to sit next to each other, or they might have new partners that will be offended if they don’t get to sit there.

You may also have children that you want to sit with you.

All of this can lead to a pretty crammed and cramped top table.

VIP bridal party

If you really want to shirk tradition, then why not have no parents on the top table at all, and instead have a table filled with your bridal party?

This may make it easier for speeches, and gets rid of the hassle of having to work out where everyone sits.

This approach will also work if you have grandparents or other relatives coming that your own parents would prefer to sit with, as they can then host tables instead.

Just you two

For those couples that really cannot find a way to work the top table, then why not throw caution to the wind and instead just have you both sat on the top table.

That way all eyes will be on you, and you don’t have to worry about offending people or stressing about who will join you on the top table.

As you can see, whilst there are some traditional approaches to your wedding day.

If the template doesn’t fit, then perhaps you need to take a different look at it.

Sure, it might not be the everyday approach to weddings, but if it works for you then this is what is important to think about.

Stephen Coleclough
Stephen Coleclough

Stephen Coleclough is one of the UK's premier wedding DJs and the winner of multiple industry awards and accolades. His favourite wedding song? Love Shack of course - a guaranteed floor filler! You can find him on Twitter at

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